Don’t Panic: Coping with Climate Anxiety in Ourselves and Our Kids

Trees are the answerOn climate change it seems the world of the adults is split in two, between those of us in various degrees of denial and those of us in various degrees of panic.

Both states are understandable human responses to a major threat. But neither state is very helpful, especially as parents, when our kids ask us what’s going on.

Amid headlines about climate catastrophe, and Greta Thunberg and school strikes, our kids need to be able to question us, and we adults need to be prepared with some responses.

I’ll tell you how I worked this through in my mind, for the school-aged kids in my life. I hope it’s helpful.

I recently read this jaw-dropping New Yorker article by Jonathan Franzen. It has had a fair bit of criticism from scientists among others, for being too pessimistic regarding the likely effects of carbon reduction. Critics seem to have said something to the effect of “IT’S NOT THAT DIRE, JONATHAN!”

But reading Franzen’s article in full, it seemed to be about so much more than that. I actually found it drew me out of my own climate panic.

It helped me work on a path through the climate emergency as a parent.

You don’t necessarily need to read the whole article yourself – there is some pretty confronting stuff to get through before the parts I found most useful. I’ll quote them below.

They are from the end of the article, which is (i) brilliant, (ii) instructive and (iii) hopeful.

(i) It’s brilliant, because it sees that climate action is so much more than reducing carbon emissions.

Any movement toward a more just and civil society can now be considered a meaningful climate action. Securing fair elections is a climate action. Combatting extreme wealth inequality is a climate action. Shutting down the hate machines on social media is a climate action. Instituting humane immigration policy, advocating for racial and gender equality, promoting respect for laws and their enforcement, supporting a free and independent press, ridding the country of assault weapons—these are all meaningful climate actions. To survive rising temperatures, every system, whether of the natural world or of the human world, will need to be as strong and healthy as we can make it.

So we could say to an anxious schoolkid: Every choice you make to be fairer to others helps make a better world, whatever happens with our climate.

(ii) It’s instructive, because it really supports not giving up on the human project. Rather, we should work ever harder to raise our planet’s kids to be kind, connected and respectful users of all our resources.

Kindness to neighbors and respect for the land—nurturing healthy soil, wisely managing water, caring for pollinators—will be essential in a crisis.

So we might say to that child: Whatever happens to our planet’s climate, we need to raise you to be kind and to know the value of what you have got around you.

We have to parent our kids to deal with what we couldn’t deal with. But then, that’s been my job as a therapist for years, so for me in a way not much changes there.

It’s just on a different scale. I work with intergenerational trauma at the micro level, and I’m hopeful about it – I think trauma has played a huge part in our species’ survival and even in our thriving, and I think that with the right resources, any human trauma can be handled so we grow through it towards better living.

Our internal resources need to be sustainably managed too. That’s my job, and it’s not only not impossible, it’s a wonderful thing to be involved in.

But now, the built-up and passed-on trauma of all previous human generations has been writ large through our technological advances, across the face of the whole damn planet. Everyone is involved. Everything is on the line.

Thankfully…

(iii) It’s hopeful! Franzen urges us not to be personally overwhelmed by the planetary scale of the problem:

Keep doing the right thing for the planet, yes, but also keep trying to save what you love specifically—a community, an institution, a wild place, a species that’s in trouble—and take heart in your small successes. Any good thing you do now is arguably a hedge against the hotter future, but the really meaningful thing is that it’s good today. As long as you have something to love, you have something to hope for.

He is so right.

To quote Nietzsche: “If we have our own why in life, we shall get along with almost any how.” Meaningful suffering is so much more survivable. And people give us our strongest meanings, followed closely by place, with all the other life we share it with.

So we might say to our worried school-aged kid: Get involved in life. Find things you love to do, but more importantly, find people you love to be with. Whatever happens with our climate, you’ll be better off surrounded by people and things you love.

Franzen’s piece left me with a sense of hope for humanity, and focused my mind on what we can DO. It helped galvanise me in my decisions to write this piece, talk to my kids and to attend a climate protest.

It also made me think of someone who saw this self-destruction coming, Douglas Adams. The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy had DON’T PANIC written on the cover. In it, our apparently massive planet containing all we are, got exactly two words of description: “Mostly harmless“. His version of our galaxy was full of alien life to which humans are oblivious, and to whom we mattered so very little!

Douglas Adams knew the value of not panicking, while maintaining humour and fostering humility. This little planet misses him every day.

I think he and Franzen would endorse the following three first steps of personal climate action:

Don’t Panic

Raise your kids (and/or help others raise theirs) to be kind, respectful, courageous and resilient.

Go to climate protests. Bring everyone you can. And keep showing up to public gatherings until our world leaders act meaningfully on climate change.

 

Even if Franzen’s gloom is spot-on, and our leaders can’t prevent climate crisis, that’s no reason to give up. There is every reason to keep doing all we can. Our kids and their kids deserve no less.

 

With thanks to Mr Franzen for kindly agreeing to my use of quotes from his article as it appeared in the New Yorker, Sep 9th 2019.

 

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